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Let it Go

If you let a little go, you have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.
– Ajahn Chah

It is human nature to become attached to things and or people. It can be exceptionally hard to let go of these attachments even when we know they are not good for us. This addictive behaviour is the root of most of the suffering and problems we experience. Eckhart Tolle, known as “the most popular spiritual author in the United State” believes that we create and maintain problems because it gives us a sense of identity. Perhaps this can help to explain why we often hold onto situations and problems – in whatever form – long ways past their capacity to serve us any good. Tolle thinks that maybe, we hold on so firmly in light of the fact that we so scared of loss and loneliness. We hold on until our hands bleed and in the self-shattering persistence, we fail to see the appropriate response, ‘simply let it go’.

We might be holding tightly to something we feel to be beneficial, like a better relationship with a loved one eventually. Despite the fact that it’s not wrong to want great things for ourselves, there are times when we should relinquish what we believe is best since it never again reflects where we ought to be or where God means to take us. Adore yourself enough to make a situation in your life that is helpful for the sustenance of your personal development. We ought to allow ourselves to relinquish situations, energies and people that drain us more than they are a blessing to us.

It is human that we replay past mistakes over and over in our head, allowing feelings of shame, regret and resentment to take over us. It is also human nature that we cling to frustration and worry about the future as though the demonstration of obsession by one means or another gives us control over them. Often, the best thing we can do to improve the situation ourselves isn’t to think, not to ponder, envision or fixate.

From my own personal experience, I understand how difficult it is to let things go. I can describe a circumstance that occurred in my life a few years prior that made me be in awesome sadness, regularly in a pool of tears. I can just depict the experience as feeling void constantly and for quite a while. I walked around with my head bowed down at the weight of my problem. When I think back on it now, I understand that I could have been recuperated from it very quickly just let go and let God. I can recall that Isaiah 61:5 gave me the best solace, it says that the Lord comforts the inconsolable, he sets the general population who are hostage to their issues free and he to each one of the individuals who grieve the loss of something or somebody dear to them, he gives excellence rather than fiery remains and euphoria as opposed to grieving and acclaim rather than give up. I quickly thought, “Amazing, what a guarantee. He can turn things around for me.”

Presently ask yourself:

1. What do I need to let go of?

2. What do I stand to lose by letting go?

3. What do I stand to gain?

There is nothing that cannot be restored once it is lost and there is some good in farewell, let it go. Letting go is indeed a learned art. We have been doing it all our lives. It’s a tradition that must continue.

With love,

Rhoda

A Problem with Joy

Joy is defined as a feeling of great pleasure and happiness but I find this definition to be problematic and highly unrealistic. If joy is really the prospect of feeling good all the time, why are we miserable so often? Why are we discouraged so often? Why is it that one bad thing happens and our happiness is all but gone? Even for those who are naturally optimistic and peppy, it is impossible to feel good all of the time. I’d like to believe that:

Joy is the assurance that God is in control of every aspect of my existence and that surely his goodness and unfailing love for me will pursue me all the days of my life. 

You’ll find nothing in that definition about happy feelings, as we all know, happiness is fleeting and temporary. All too often we search for happiness in possession and prestige. We think we are happy if we get what we want. We pursue happiness in temporal fulfillment of personal desires. Real joy can only be found in the presence of God.

God is a God of joy; we need only to seek him in order to truly experience the joy he brings into our lives. He is a wellspring of true joy. The more you love him, walk with him, and become like him, the greater your joy. Some of us are too busy trying to do what God ought to be doing for us that we have never entered into his ‘resting place’ and are constantly frustrated and tired of life – we are all guilty of this at one point or another. With Jesus in our heart, it should follow that we are not as miserable as often as we are.

With love,

Rhoda

 

 

You won’t Kill A Giant Everyday

Today was not a good day. We all have those days, regardless of whether it be that you’ve suffered a major defeat and don’t figure you can stomach another one or a case whereby we do so well one day and so badly the next. Our days will be filled with victories and defeats. There is yet time to accept this because it is a fact of life.

It was a major transitional point in my life, and nothing seemed to be going the way I wanted it to. These times I cried and couldn’t even begin to smile much less laugh. I was having a hard time maintaining my joy. Even today, being joyful is as much a struggle for me as it may be for you. So when I talk about life, I’m not doing so from the perspective of a generally upbeat person who has never had a bad day. Proverbs 15:15 says, “When a man is gloomy, everything seems to go wrong: when he is cheerful, everything seems right.” Our moods can affect our outlook on life. When we are feeling down, it can seem like nothing is going right and everyone around us is an irritant. When we are cheerful, almost nothing can bother us.

Over the years, I’ve discovered that an existence without misery isn’t an existence by any means. An existence without torment, an existence without a little inconvenience, an existence without disappointment and brokenness and figuring out the fact that it is so difficult to lose somebody or something—without this, we never understand the value of what we have.

Without tumbling down, we never figure out how to be watchful and keen. Without getting our hearts broken, we never figure out the fact that it is so wonderful to genuinely become hopelessly enamoured. Without saying farewell, we never truly treasure the people, energies and gifts around us. Additionally, it’s the hardest times that remind us to underestimate nothing, and show us our true strength.

So don’t lose yourself over a terrible day. Try not to abhor yourself, or your life, since things aren’t going right. Try not to lose perspective.

With love,

Rhoda

God Doesn’t Need You

“He gave, we received.  Not because He needed us, but because we needed Him.”

Oh, to be needed. The Christain blogger Shane Pruitt notes that for every single one of us, we are in love with the idea that someone needs us and this is the ‘savior complex’ in us all. The problem with believing this, of course, is that a “need” implies a lack of something. So, if God were to need me, then that means that He must lack something in some way. And by definition, if God is lacking in anything, then He is not God.

In particular, here are three characteristics of God that demonstrate why He requires nothing outside of Himself.

  1. Omnipotence: God is all-powerful. There is nothing that He cannot do on His own. “For one thing, all creation is dependent on the life that God alone sustains. “He makes grass grow for the cattle,” and “all creatures look to you to give them their food at the proper time… When you take away their breath, they die and return to the dust.” Who else can? With power and majesty, our God reigns. All the peoples of the earth are regarded as nothing. He does as he pleases with the powers of heaven and the peoples of the earth. No one can hold back his hand or say to him: “What have you done?” (Daniel 4:35)

  2. Omniscience: God is all-knowing. If only we knew of a human being who has worked for even a second as a consultant to the Lord. There is nothing that anyone can teach Him. “Whom did the LORD consult to enlighten him, and who taught him the right way? Who was it that taught him knowledge, or showed him the path of understanding?” (Isaiah 40:14).

  3. Omni-benevolent: God is all-loving. He doesn’t need a relationship with us. We have the perfect example of a complete unified relationship in the Trinity: God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit; a complete relationship within Himself. “And he is not served by human hands as if he needed anything. Rather, he himself gives everyone life and breath and everything else.” (Acts 17:25)

    If you really stop and think about this, it truly is amazing. 

Application:

  1.  Admit to yourself, “I am not needed by God. But the ridiculous truth is that I am wanted by a complete God. For God suffers no lack and knows no limitation. “

  2. Be God-dependent. The God who doesn’t need me is the God I need. Acknowledge that there is nothing you can do apart from him. As Pastor Francis Chan put it, “the irony is that while God doesn’t need us but wants us, we desperately need God but don’t really want him most of the time.”

    With love,

    Rhoda

 

Smallness in Our Own Eyes

Growing up every other person around me had the capacity to do something or the other incredibly well while I have always been the person who cares excessively. I am the kind of person that when I see somebody do or say something humiliating, I instantly and deeply feel shame for them. I have always doubted what good my ability to feel and care deeply for others does. This was in light of the fact that I didn’t particularly consider my caring nature as a super ability nor a super talent in comparison to that of others. I once had a relative prompt me that “being so caring and charitable is not going to make you good money or successful” and to tell you the truth this demoralized me. First and foremost, I can’t help what I am really like at my core, it not as though there is a switch to kill that sort of thing, and secondly, the statement implied that I wasn’t enough just as I was.

Today I’ve chosen to quit resisting and acknowledge that my talent is my ability to feel profoundly for other individuals and I say this with utmost humility. Once in a while, it’s really hard for me to explain why I jump at the chance to help others when I am asked because in all genuineness ‘It is how I’ve always been.’ You wouldn’t question in the event that you asked a dancer how they know how to move and they said ‘I simply do’ right? That goes for me as well, why should I be embarrassed to state that helpfulness and compassion are my super-abilities? Why can’t I admit that? What I am able to do and who I am is enough in and of itself. After all, Homeland Ghana was founded on the very premise that I like to help others.

We all have abilities, and although some are not considered as terrific as others they are abilities nonetheless. Your life has a reason. All that is within you is there for a reason; to leave a positive mark on the world, and for your own personal development.

You may say to yourself:

“I’m great at helping others.”

“I’m a great organizer.”

“I listen well to others.”

“I give great words of wisdom and consolation”

“I’m inventive.”

Whatever your rundown incorporates, make sure to perceive those things for what they are. Your talents. Don’t take these lightly, your talents are important and good enough. You have an obligation to others, you have an obligation to yourself and in the long run, you would prefer not to have squandered your life. Identify those abilities that you give little significance to and begin to explore them.

With love,

Rhoda

Let’s talk Wisdom

Wisdom is emphasized as one of the greatest qualities we can possess. Let’s face it, knowledge is not enough to help us meet and solve life’s problems. We need wisdom or otherwise the combination of experience, knowledge, and good judgment, to handle life with skill. Consider the words of wisdom below:

  1. These are the days that must happen to you. At the point when the human heart comprehends this, it is free and ready to acknowledge troublesome circumstances and not be deceived by moments of glory. Both will pass. One will succeed the other. However good or bad a situation is, it will change. 

  2. At the point when our worst moments pass, we find the concealed quality that exists in all of us, a quality that will astound us and increment our sense of pride. We will glance around and say to ourselves, “I survived.” And we will be cheered by our own words.

  3. Without isolation, no plant or creature can survive, no dirt can stay beneficial, no craftsman can make, no work can develop and be changed. Along these lines favored are the individuals who don’t fear isolation, who are not anxious about their own company, who are not continually searching frantically for something to do, something to preoccupy their time, something to pass a comment or judgment about. On the off chance that you are never alone, you can’t know yourself. Furthermore, on the off chance that you don’t have any acquaintance with yourself, you will start to fear the void.

  4. You will only be loved and respected if you love and respect yourself. Never attempt to please everybody;  if you do you will be respected by no one. 

  5. Rest a bit, however when you can, get up and go on ahead. Since as far back as your goal discovered that you were going towards it, it has been racing to meet you.

  6. Despite the fact that anxiety is a part of life, never let it control you. If it comes excessively close, say: ” I am not worried about tomorrow, because God is already there, waiting for me.”

  7. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get caught up with living, or get busy dying.

  8. What other individuals think and say of you is not your issue to worry about. A tiger doesn’t lose sleep over the opinion of a sheep.

  9. It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.

  10. On the off chance that we tossed our issues in a heap and saw everybody else’, we’d snatch our own back.

  11. Live each day by itself – this is enough. Try not to think back and lament over the past for it is gone; and don’t be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Embrace the here and now, and make it so beautiful that it will be worth recollecting. Acknowledge profoundly that the present moment is all you have, make the now the primary focus of your life.

  12. I know you’re giving it your everything except save some for yourself.

  13. Gossips are worse than thieves because they steal other person’s dignity, honest reputation, and credibility which can be challenging to restore. Remember: when your feet slip, you can regain your balance. But when your tongue slips, you cannot recover your words.

  14. If we wait until we’re ready, we’ll be waiting for the rest of our lives.

  15. The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new.

With love,

Rhoda

 

 

Hello Fear

 “What if I Fall? Oh, but my darling what if you fly?”

Fear is defined as a distressing emotion aroused by danger, pain, etc., regardless of whether the fear is genuine or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid. Fear is also creatively defined as False Evidence Appearing Real. The dismal result of fear is often that we don’t pursue the things we say are important to us. I am sure that I have missed countless opportunities to grow as an individual in such manner. Honestly, for over a year I came up with a wide range of reasons why I couldn’t begin Homeland Ghana as a non-profit organization. At first, I was afraid of the degree of hard-work involved. I simply believed that I wouldn’t be able to devote enough time and energy to it, and later this developed into a fear of the competition Homeland Ghana would be up against. This is to say that, there will always be reasons why we cannot face our fears and achieve our dreams.

1. Just Start

We don’t need to like where or how we begin. Often I wish I was a better communicator than when I started Homeland Ghana. I wish I knew more people, with more social media followings and influence to promote my organization when I began. In any case, more than anything, I’m happy that I began despite the fact that things were not incredible at the beginning. Homeland Ghana started with only the support of my immediate family and my two closest friends, Jemima and Sabrina. The truth is that fear can make us feel ill-equipped for what it is we want to do but exceptionality is the end goal, we ought to stop making it the starting requirement. There will never be a time when life is simple and there is yet time to practice accepting this. 

My advice is that you start now. Start where you are. Start with fear. Start with doubt. Start with pain and sleepless nights. Start with hands shaking. Start with a voice trembling but START.

2. Failure is not certain

Who says you’re going to fail? The only real failure is not taking any action in the first place. Think ahead, pray ahead, plan ahead, but don’t fear ahead of time. It’d be tragic if the treasure and talent within you were buried under fears, opinions and expectations. At whatever point fear strikes, flip it over. Rather than considering something terrible that can happen, consider something positive. What’s a positive result to your fear? You could just fly. Rather than fearing that no one takes notice of Homeland Ghana, I think about the fact that I’ve put myself in a position to positively impact the dreams and aspirations of young people across Ghana and I am doing the best that I can. Homeland Ghana as an organization is not yet where I want it to be, but all movement is forward.

With love,

Rhoda