FEELING: LIKE I HAVE A LOT TO CATCH UP ON
I used to be so hard on myself when I could not make it on social media to respond to comments, connect or just to see what was going on in the lives of others. Honestly, in the last few weeks and as a result of how busy my life has been, I have let that go. The truth is that Homeland Ghana is managed and all the work that it involves is done only by me. This involves business meetings, responding to emails, releasing fresh content (photo and film documentaries, blog posts etc) for my social media and website just to mention a few. I am resilient and manage to do it all but it takes a lot more time than it would it I had more people on board.
Part of myself care routine now is giving myself the permission to live in my real life moments, like really live and be present in them. There are days when I am at a networking event or with friends and family having huge amounts of fun and instead of pulling out my camera to film or photograph the moment, I decide to be present in that moment long enough for it to become a lasting memory. So if I miss a few days on social media, I tell myself that it is okay and that is because it really is okay to live and enjoy my life. I know that I can always catch up and network when things have calmed down or when I have the time. What is more, I am an introvert and so socialising of any kind is exhausting to me but believe you me, I do try.
As of late, I strive to be perceived as the most capable, not the most visible. I try not to take it so personally and seriously what the “social media experts” say about keeping up and always being available in order to build a brand. I simply cannot do what everyone else is doing, especially when I’ve noticed that it is not as good for me as it may be for others. Honestly, you can drive yourself mad trying to always be available for the digital world whilst in your real life things are completely falling apart. By far the hardest thing for me to accept is that social media has made it more difficult for us to value the meaningful relationships we foster in the real world and the numerous casual relationships we form through social media. By focusing so much of our time and energy on these less meaningful relationships, our most important connections (those that truly make us happy to be alive) are severely weakened.
I love all those who support me and continue to donate towards the work that my NGO does, but it is just that over a long period of time, I’ve also learned to put my mental and physical health as the top 3 “most important things in my life.” As a result, I have noticed that I’ve become a much better person for it, both in my personal and business life. Taking a break feels good and my thumb and mind are well rested because of this.